To all of my two or so followers, please excuse my lack of postings over the past month. Needless to say, a lot was observed over the holidays and first months of the New Year that have gainfully replenished my creative content, as it pertains to dating and relationships, which you will see over the next several months. So in preface to this very relevant post, thanks for sticking with me and hanging on to the one source of guidance and or entertainment, depending on your viewpoint, that is sure to get you on the path to dating and relationship success in 2010. Thanks.
Am I a failure? No matter how you ask yourself this question, it stings to think about. But wait, snap out of it Johnny Drama! If you haven’t asked yourself this question, you’re a freak of nature. And not in a good way. The creepy kind of freak. If you were to look up the definition, you would see words such as, unsuccessful, nonperformance or insufficiency. All of these words have the same amount of venom when applied to ones own actions or outcomes. In my humble opinion, failure is the worst thing you could use to describe yourself. I mean seriously, when is the last time you heard someone start off the ice breaker at a company workshop with, “Hello, my name is HitcH. I’m from Houston. I enjoy spending time with my girlfriend and I’m a failure!” Albeit entertaining, it may overwhelm the group with awkwardness. But who knows, it may appeal to everyone and land a date with the one hottie in the workshop…
Failure is always something that creates an uneasy feeling when accompanied by true circumstances. Whether at work or in your social life, failure is not easy to admit. So what does this mean for me?
The objective of this post is to push you out of your comfort zone to embrace failure. Men and women often confuse failure with potential. Please, do me a favor, don’t be that person. Failure is a one time outcome to a series of actions or trials on a path to a desired outcome. So, as it pertains to dating, failure is not getting a date, getting rejected or getting the cold shoulder in an attempt to persue that desired person.
Here’s why you’ve been looking at this wrong. Have you failed? Have you succeeded? Did your failure at anything else in life prevent you from accomplishing other desired objectives? NOPE! Then why would you label your own potential for successfully dating? You wouldn’t. The problem is that you have been sitting on the sidelines afraid to put yourself in a position to fail. When is the last time you won a big poker hand while not sitting at the poker table? You never have and you never will.
The point of this post is to get you out in the scene. If I were next to you in a given situation, I would be whispering in your ear to go for it and get acquainted with the feeling of failure. Once you know what it feels like to fail with a desired woman, you’ll figure out that the water is not as cold afterall. And that’s the feeling that will begin to set you free of failure. It’s just like life to force you through pain to get to the pleasure. The only thing that’s making you feel failure is you.
Your assignment is to go out this weekend and fail with at least two women. I want you to accept failure and thrive on it. Eventually, you’ll get to the point where you couldn’t fail if you wanted to. So stop the self-concious fake record you keep track of in your own mind. You know, the one that tells you when you go after a woman, you’re undefeated. You need to be 0-2 by midnight Friday! If you are serious about becoming yourself and not what you think you have to be, to get something other than your hand lotion into bed with you this Friday, you’ll take this advice.
Remember, failure is just a word. And the goal of this excerise is to take away the power of the word to which you have given. The past few posts were meant to get you out of your comfort zone and explain why you can’t always have what you want. If you took that advice to heart, this will begin to liberate your potential. Whatever the case, you put the limits on your life just as you take them away. The only one that can do either is you. No excuse will ever trump that fact of life.
Please write in to tell me how you were able to fail. If you have the best story and understanding of the challenge, I’ll personally accompany you on your next night out.
TiP: Fail, fail, fail…. Find the valley of your own stock. From that point you have no where to go but straight up.
Authentically,
HitcH
