About HitcH
The purpose of this blog is to answer questions about dating and relationships for men and women in Houston. Moreover, I feel like I have a duty to share what I have learned to others in need of help. The world we live in today is both amazingly wonderful and terrifying. We live in a world that has given us the most access to technology and communication making our lives more complex but also more efficient. Ironically, I find that the more communication we have at our fingertips, the further we fall from social eptness. Internet dating, online chatting, social networking sites (i.e. facebook) and texting all play a significant role in the development of a relationship between couples today.
I guess the reason I’ve been compelled to study, research, learn and write about what I see is that I feel as if the technological developments have taken something very complex and crucial for the survival of humanity and simplified them into an easily clickable icon. What’s wrong with that? Look at the divorce rate in our country. We are right around 50% in the U.S. depending on the study. In my opinion, the problem is that we’ve accerated the accessability to a commodity without addressing any of the problems in quality. Like the ancient Chinese proverb, “Give a man a fish, he eats for a day, teach a man to fish, he eats for a lifetime.” We’re giving away fish like it’s going out of style. You would think that with all of the access to “relationship sites” you would see more happy couples like the ones on eHarmony, right? Then why do couples divorce increasingly year after year? Think about this:
What makes a man or woman capable of maintaining a relationship that was hand selected by a relationship site? He or she may want one but what makes them ready? The online dating sites take away a crucial step in human development. REAL LIFE. We are genetically geared to find a mate and have children to spread our genes. As a caveman years ago, had you not been effective at doing that, you would be dead. So what we’re seeing now is no different than obecity, the number one epidemic in the U.S. Accessibility doesn’t translate to healthy. Food is accessible, cheap and plentiful in the U.S. So much so that the last homeless person you handed some pocket change to would probably be defined as “obese” medically. So we have taken the concept to dating and finding someone to date. An accessible, cheap and plentiful supply has given us just that. But a bigger problem exists. Low quality. And that’s where I come in. I believe that no matter how easy we make finding a mate, the one thing that we will never make easy is keeping one. That can only be done through learning and changing our typical mindset. And that’s exactly what I intend to change.
The reason I believe I know things that can help is that I’ve been able to study ideas from experts and use my own awareness to articulate things that others struggle with. Most that know me well would agree that I’m a good communicator. At one point in my career, I studied relationships, dating and attraction with a dating company that played a key role in developing what was inside of me. At that time, I learned about myself mainly. And by doing that, I was able to learn about others without being clouded.
I come from the belief that anything is possible. When I grew up, my parents would always tell me that I could do and be anything. I really believed them. And throughout my life thus far, I feel like I still want to be everything.
My advice in this blog as it goes, is centered around one main idea. In order to be loved, one must first love themselves. Surely that isn’t the first time you’ve heard that. Though it’s a common idea, people tend to complicate it in their own life. As someone moves away from truly being one with themselves, they allow their lives to become more and more unhealthy. The best thing about this idea is that you won’t need to buy anything to get my advice. Becoming strong and happy with yourself is free.
