In response to the latest post I think it’s necessary to discuss what a real man really characterizes. I never intended for people to read my blog and get the idea that I somehow believe women are objects and should be treated poorly. I also never intended for people to read my advice and take it like I’ve never fallen off my bike and gotten scratched up. I’m not saying that I’m God’s gift to women. I DO believe I want to be God’s gift to MY woman though. Being God’s gift to MY woman means pursuing the quest to becoming a REAL MAN. And that’s what I’m working to become. No doubt a life long endeavor.
With this blog, I’m only trying to help guys avoid mistakes that can sometimes damage them out of “the game” long enough to miss meeting someone, who adds more to life than imaginable. I say more because it’s important to already have a great life to bring someone in to. Someone looking for a life raft in love is certain to drown in time. At some point, I’ll get nicer feedback. I’ll hold my breath.
I expected to get thank you feedback. C’mon, for self-sacrifice into a dysfunctional family life. It was a calculated effort to someday share my stories and experiences on a public blog fueled by endless amounts of dating and relationship literature along with self studying to figure this stuff out. All of my life’s f-ups in one little free blog. You’re welcome in advance.
In response to a comment:
Let me get back to some good advice for the latest comment from Lot2learn. Sometimes we look at the details of a perceived problem rather than the big picture. What I mean is that we need to take a few steps back to see the whole thing at times. What makes a guy attractive? Is it money, fame, looks…etc.? I read a book called King Warrior Magician Lover (Rediscovering the archetypes of the mature masculine) by Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette. It was about a year ago and it really brought some things to my attention that I questioned internally for some time. I suggest women and men pick it up and read it. Without going into specifics, the book describes each trait that projects TRUE masculinity. The more of each trait one possess, the more attractive and successful that man becomes. Success in this case is more of the self fulfillment not materialistic in nature. I really advise women to read it because it may help them pick out POSITIVE traits in a potential man or a man they are currently in a relationship with.
I think that to be truly successful with women, dating, relationships, family and career, a guy has to focus first on himself and becoming a real man. To me, a real man is one that is ultra confident while at the same time being rational, emotional and humble. A humble yet confident man is confident with his opinions and masculinity while accepting rationally that not everyone will accept his voice. He doesn’t question others because he’s secure in his own life and understands that each person needs to find their own path to discovery. He lets negativity confronting him escape without attention because his feet are securely grounded. There’s no time to judge those around him because they are who they are and his own security and strength supersedes another’s perceived weakness or difference. He has no reservation when displaying emotion on any level. And he doesn’t shy away from sharing his feelings with women.
If that was too deep, think about it like this. If you’re around a bunch of your guys and they tell you to stop being a chick, chances are you’re displaying some type of vulnerability. Being comfortable doing just that actually makes you more masculine to women contrary to what the guys say. It’s not their fault. They’re doing what they believe they know to do. They may not be concerned with developing themselves and that’s fine. Developing yourself will only benefit you anyway. Not them. But guys, I’m not saying it’s better to walk around whining all day. Not cool.
TiP:
In order to start developing the happiness in your life that is the REAL chick magnet, develop yourself within your own masculinity. Be comfortable in your own skin. It’s perfectly fine if people judge you for being a certain way. Being judged and disliked and hated is part of life. Don’t waste your time trying to prevent it because you’ll focus too much time on something that won’t help you. You may avoid superficial judgment but you’ll most likely be judged for not having a spine. The most powerful thing to say in a conversation is that you disagree. That’s why it’s easy to find yes people and hard to find challenging people. If you need a start, tell someone in your family that you really appreciate and LOVE them if you’ve never said so. Don’t let Hallmark say what you need to get comfortable saying in your own skin.
Authentically,
HitcHouston
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Yes, only a real man would ever do anything so secure.